Tuesday, March 24, 2015

Dead Dogs & Other Phenomenon that Make You Realize Your Childhood is Over

Wow, that’s the most depressing title I’ve ever written (and I was a tween poet). Well, it’s not going to get much happier from here. You’ve been warned.
A few weeks ago, I discovered that my neighbor’s nine-year-old poodle had passed away. This wouldn’t be out of the ordinary, except Babe was a bit of a special case. She was born with a heart arrhythmia, her tiny ribcage beating in fluttery patterns when you held her. She was only supposed to live eighteen months tops. By her eighth year, we all thought she was going to live forever just to keep up the irony of it. It’s really unpoetic of God not to make this dog immortal.
“Speaking of dead dogs,” My mother transitioned on our Skype call last week, “Buster died too.”
This is less of a tragedy. I mean, I’m sorry for my longtime friend and Buster’s owner, Carolyn, but Buster was a bit wonky. And when I say a bit, I mean for the past ten years he would park his chubby, rat terrier butt in the cat tree and bark at me every time I walked into Carolyn’s living room.
Doggy death has become a bit of a pattern in the past five years. A few years earlier, Buster’s brother, Duke, discovered the answer to the black dog plus dark night plus fast car equation. A block over, my brother’s best friend’s yellow lab was put down due to one of the common big dog illnesses (hip dysplasia or bloat, I don’t really remember). My godparent’s dog chased a rabbit into the metal side of their camper. All of the dogs from my childhood are dead.
Except for Duncan, the white and brindle Shi Tzu my parents brought home one night when I was five. He’s fourteen now and comparably healthy for his age. He has some bowel problems and ruptured a disk last month, but for the most part enjoys his days napping and chewing the faces off his toys. Since leaving for college, though, he suddenly seems so much older. Maybe it’s because all my information is second hand, meaning my mother is more inclined to tell me about the ear infections and vet visits than him dashing through the hall to get a treat. Maybe it’s because all of the dogs of my childhood are dying to the tune of “Another One Bites the Dust” or the cannon sound from the Hunger Games.
I have a bit of a “dead pet” motif in my writing. My first ever completed novel, Dead Fish, began and ended with the death of goldfish (exciting, I know). Dead pets work well as metaphors for innocence encountering death. Parents purchase goldfish and gerbils so their children can learn lessons in responsibility, but also in death. It’s a stepping-stone for the harsher realities of life, the hierarchy of funerals held in the backyard going from fish to parakeets to dogs to grandparents (wow, Emma, you are just a warm mug of hot chocolate today, aren’t you?).
But how does one feel when this test of innocence is occurring at a time where they are already expected to grow up fast? I’m away from my dog and my parents and my home now, living in an 11 by 15 room with only my roommate to look after me. My days are largely unstructured except for a few hours of class and a few hours of office work, leaving me time to think about ridiculous questions like is the death of dogs in my life largely symbolic of the end of my childhood. It doesn’t have to be, of course, because the only symbolism in life is what we choose to see. I’m choosing to project meaning onto this common occurrence (all pets die, after all) because I’m feeling a bit confused about and stressed over my own maturity and responsibilities.

I’ll try not to dwell on it anymore for the time being. Spring break is in three days, so I’ll be able to go home soon and see my puppy.

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